Part of living a detox lifestyle is to know when to move on from a relationship when it’s not working for you; business, friends, intimate or family.
If someone isn’t adding to your life they shouldn’t be in it, this is a mantra to live by. Feelings from a beneficial relationships are peace, love and joy. Beneficial relationships lift you up, encourage, motivate and bring out the best in you.
Toxic, dysfunctional relationships cause pain, hurt and resentment. If you keep negative/toxic people in your life, real feelings of peace, love, and joy will be somewhere in the distance. Your dreams are more difficult to manifest since you’re too busy swirling around in a negative vortex with toxic people. Toxic people abuse and use you, remind you of weaknesses, find fault in things you do, drain energy, and when you need them most, nowhere to be found.
The universe will continue to push the boundaries of negative experiences with toxic people until you find a way to break free of the chains that bind you to this toxic energy. It's paramount to recognize every time you attract more toxic people, universe raises the stakes. In other words, pain you experience is heightened; each time the lesson is presented it will be tougher and tougher to overcome.
If you have toxic people in your life, it’s time to say good-bye. Toxic people are triggers for destructive behavior and add to negative thinking; bad memories, could have, should have, guilt and past traumas.
I know this may sound harsh especially when it comes to family; if your family is constantly pouring concrete on your hopes and dreams with their toxic behavior you have to find strength inside, to walk away.
"Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go". -Herman Hesse.
For starters, have to be present and meditation is the most obvious way to accomplish this. I know for some it’s difficult and almost unbearable to meditate for just a few minutes.
Start with daily breathing exercises, 5 deep breaths, make sure your breathing through your nose and not your mouth. I like to close my eyes and sometimes put my hands over my ears, it helps to block any external stimuli making it easier to get centered.
This is just one step and a good start. When you’re in the present moment it takes you out of your story, able to see without filters what’s going on in your life and that’s beautiful. The more present/conscious you become, fewer toxic people in your life.
Much love,
Aster